“Homier Than Thou”

Over the last few days the Lord has been churning some thoughts around in my heart and head.  Then yesterday He even gave me a word picture for it all.  I love when He does that!  It makes it so much clearer to understand His heart. 


There has been a bit of a commotion recently in bloggyland about adoptions.  Posts, comments and implications….leaving a mixed bag of emotions.  After much prayer, I feel that the whole issue needs to be addressed. 
Bear with me as I share the word picture the Lord gave me yesterday.  I was heavy in prayer and thought as I cleaned a deep drawer filled with crayons, pictures created by my little artists and semi-scribbled in coloring books.  
I was talking to the Lord about all this stuff when He so clearly said, “Look at the crayons.  Do you see the broken ones?  Look at the newish ones that are not yet broken.  Take a picture of it and show your blog friends.”   
I got out my camera and took two pictures.  And then He said, “Tell them this….” {Which I will get to in a second.}
Our family is in a unique place as we have been adopting now for 26+ years.   Many of you weren’t even born yet when we began bringing treasures home from the other side of the world!  Over the 26 years we have now adopted 8 kiddos, some as infants, some as toddlers and some dubbed ‘older’ children….some adopted from the States and some internationally….we mixed up the birth order with some of the adoptions and most {but not all} of the treasures we have brought home were classified ‘special needs’.  
That being said, sadly there is a growing trend for some on the adoption scene to make it clear that the route they took to grow their family through adoption makes them of sorts, “homier than thou.”  
 As though those who didn’t adopt ‘special needs’ weren’t really as spiritual or God-following as those who did.  Or those who were waiting for infants were not quite as ‘homier’ as those who brought home teenagers.  Or those who adopted sibling groups were really much more ‘homier’ than those who waited for newborns.  Or those who adopted through foster care were seeing the big picture much clearer than those who chose international adoption or visa versa.  
And so here’s what I felt like the Lord said as I stared at the crayons. 
“Do you see, Linny, the crayons?  Some broken, some whole, yet all when put to use will produce a beautiful picture.  Who’s to say that the only perfect picture would come from using unbroken crayons?  Who’s to say that broken crayons produce the most picturesque artwork?  Or that the person using both broken and non-broken crayons is the true artist? I am the master artist and I say, ‘create the picture as I direct and I will direct each person {family} differently.  It’s me directing.  The thing I desire is complete obedience.   My picture will look different for every single family adopting.  It’s obedience to me and only me that matters.'” 
Sweet bloggy friends, it was powerful.  
The ‘homier than thou’ attitude is not from the Lord!  He desires obedience.  For some His plan is an infant adoption, for others a mix-up of the birth order, for others His plan is all special needs adoptions, for some it will be an adoption overseas to kick things off, for others they will build their family through foster care, for still others it will be a hodge podge of all of the above, but none of the ways to build a family is ‘homier than thou’ and really friends it is an attitude of arrogance and self-righteousness that any of us would presume to know how God wants to move in a heart and family.
I confess right here and now, I was not ready to bring home an 8 year old until Jubilee came home.  Yet our oldest Abigail and our son-in-love Ryan wanted a four or five year old girl first.

One day semi-recently ago, Abigail and I were talking and she said, “Mom, it’s so weird, isn’t it?  We just thought that we would bring home a girl about 4 or 5 years old and yet the Lord’s plans were for an infant boy – how crazy is that?!  He is so perfect for us, we couldn’t imagine our family without our Finn-Finn.”  Precisely!  God’s plans supersede even our well thought out ideas!  

Dw and I opened our hearts to special needs when we brought our first internationally adopted son home but as it turns out Tyler’s ‘special need’ was non-existant.  
Then the Lord {almost literally} dropped Autumn as a brand new baby on our doorstep.  When the teen years were rough with her {I asked her if I could say that, because writing negative things about our kids had better be with their permission, cause public words can or will be read by them} anyway, as I was saying, when the teen years were especially rough with Autumn, I remember being comforted by the fact that she had literally been dropped on our doorstep – clearly indicating that it was the Lord’s plan for her to come home to us, and yes, we survived the teen years and have been closest of friends now for many years….
Yet it would be a sad day in the adoption community if someone snubbed their nose at us bringing a Caucasian infant {Autumn} home as though their sibling pack from overseas made them “homier than thou”.  Seriously friends?  
Wouldn’t it be much more productive if those inside and outside the adoption community worried about themselves and only themselves?  Imagine with me what would happen if the person who prefers coloring with the broken crayons cheered on the person coloring with the non-broken crayons?  What would be the outcome if instead of lines being drawn and “homier than thou” camps being created, friends across the board joined forces knowing that the end picture would be beautifully created by both broken crayon picture makers, whole crayon artists and those who choose both types of crayons for their masterpiece?
By the same token, it would be arrogant of me {or anyone else} to think that adoption is what every.single.person ought to be doing.   Adoption may not be for everyone, but every one has to do something for the orphan.  Scripture is filled {filled!} with caring for the orphan, in one way or another, and James 1:27 is pretty clear for starters. 
   
No doubt, God’s heart is grieved by the orphan crisis and how pride-filled and ‘homier than thou’ to assume that any one knows what someone else should do….
Because in the end, it’s gonna’ be each of us standing solo before the King of Kings and Lord of Lords.  He will be the only one we answer to as to what we did with the unique plan He gently and lovingly unfolded specifically for us.  

94 thoughts on ““Homier Than Thou”

  1. I love the crayon picture! The only area of disagreement I have is people worrying about themselves. Someone stepped out and really stuck their nose in our business during our adoption and it changed everything and ultimately led us to Amby. Trust me, I didn't enjoy writing the post I did and I've taken my fair share of tongue lashings for it. But I've also had people say thank you because it introduced them to new ideas they just didn't know before, much like me.

  2. Love this post! So so true! I have the poem, Anyway on my blog and the last lines say:

    For you see, in the end, it is between you and God.
    It was never between you and them anyway."

    Thanks for always sharing your heart!

    Tina

  3. Linny,
    This has been on my heart now for sometime, I just could not put it into the words that you did–in the way that you just did.

    Thanks for being willing to share your heart with all of your bloggy friends over and over.

    Abigail

  4. Thanks for this post. I didn't know what was going on in bloggy-world about this issue, but my husband and I have been praying, searching, waiting for God to make it CLEAR to US about our next adoption–Foster? Domestic? International? Infant? Older? Special Needs? Still waiting to hear from Him b/c we want what He has for our family. There are so many options out there, but I really want Him to guide us. "You can make many plans, but the LORD's purpose will prevail." Prov. 19:21. It would be an amazing thing if we all encouraged each other as we obey what God has placed on our hearts. Every child deserves love and a home…and aren't we all broken?? Thanks for the thoughts–encourages me to keep trusting that God will reveal his plan for us.

  5. I so appreciate your heart shining through in this. While I admit that I haven't faced or been exposed to any of these attitudes in person, I have had conversations with friends who have faced them personally. And it grieves me. I am so grateful that the folks in my circle are supportive without condition. And if they aren't, well, then I must be oblivious cuz I've not ascertained that from anyone. Thank you for putting it into words and reminding us to think and act and live like Jesus, even in (especially in?) our family building and growing choices. This is good stuff here 🙂

  6. Very well said! God has a plan for each of us AND He has a plan for each child that he creates. While we have not adopted and don't feel like God has that in His plan for our family, He has called us to give so that others can adopt and to support the mission field where orphans abound. We have friends that have adopted…some once, some multiple times, some single adoptions, others multiple adoptions, some domestic, some international. What a blessing each and every one of them have been given through their children. Thanks for your candidness and transparency! While I don't comment often (this may be my 3rd time in a few years), I love following your blog and learning lessons God has for me that He teaches me through you! May God continue to bless you and your beautiful family!

  7. Thank you so much for putting into words the things that have been rolling around my mind. We are just starting our own adoption journey, and it is already interesting to see the questions and responses we are getting. You said all of this so eloquently, and I am so thankful that the Lord is using you to speak such truth.

  8. AMEN!! Amen Linny. Thank you Jesus for speaking to this faithful woman's heart so the rest of us can learn and grow and know that our story will be different than someone else's because you write our stories. YOU Lord. Beautiful Linny. Love the crayons. Isn't that like all of us too…all different and yet all God's children.

  9. aaahhhh…love this! The Lord told me something very similar yesterday and again this morning. I have been having certain expectations of a friend, simply because she is adopting. I was assuming that then she is called (primarily) to orphans, when actuality she has a real gift and call to discipleship. My expectations of how she should view things were mine alone…not God's expectations of her! Yikes! Thankfully, she was very gracious when I asked for her forgiveness and continues to offer her full love.

    I am so very grateful that God calls each of us differently…we are the BODY of Christ! Thank goodness we are not all hands or feet or stomachs!

    Of course, for all of us who call ourselves Christians, our first call is to love Him and love one another! Thank you for sharing your heart in the this post to love one another with His love.

  10. I love it Linny! Thank you for your words of wisdom:) I look at our family every day and marvel at the creative way the Lord brought our 2 newest kids to us… domestic adoption an embryo adoption… (The 2nd of which would never have been on our radar…had our Samuel not died and our embryo donor been widowed at 29) It is AMAZING to me how God has brought beauty from the ashes… ENOUGH about me… I just loved all that you said… CHEERING YOU ON GIRL!!!:)
    Sara

  11. I am so glad you shared this. I know it will speak to many more hearts, not just mine. Also, we would be oh so appreciative of prayers, as we seek God's direction for us in this area. You hit on one of our many decisions.

  12. Thank you, Linny, for again articulating so well ideas I've had but that were never fully formed. As a mom of a non-special needs adopted Chinese daughter (infant at the time)I have felt guilt for not adopting a special needs child. I also get asked quite a bit why my husband and I didn't adopt from the U.S. I feel like I have to justify my answer of "because God lead us to China." And we only have one child, and don't plan on having anymore, unless God lays it on our hearts. But we also know our part in caring for the orphans isn't done, as you so beautifully state, we must continue to follow God's plan and do all we can to reach the orphans.

  13. It's very much like the Starfish poem and the man flinging them into the sea. It matters to 'this one.' They are all orphans in God's eyes. It doesn't matter what you do for the orphan, just do something.

  14. Thank you Linny- Just yesterday my husband and I started to discuss bringing kiddo #3 into our lives and sometimes starting that conversation and doing it can be so scary. Thanks for these words of inspiration and a reminder to trust the Lord!!!

  15. AMEN AMEN AMEN..you put it so beautifully thank you for sharing your heart…I too have been reading some things out there that just are upsetting…we are children of the Most High..it is HIS plan and HIS plan alone..we as brothers and sisters in Christ should be building up each other, not tearing each other down because of what we feel are the right way or wrong ways..it's HIS ways…

  16. Greatest adoption post. AMEN AMEN. I love your heart…I love the word picture…I love how the Lord speaks to you and then you pass it on.

  17. It couldn't have been written better. Thank you for sharing the truth of adoption! (in todays post and always!) As a first time paper pregnant mom waiting (desperately) to get the call from our domestic agency that a birthmom has chosen us to parent her infant I often read blogs (maybe too much) and feel shunned by the older-child-special-needs-international adopting moms who talk down on infant adoptions. I remember that God has called our family to where we are and I dont have to defend that.

  18. So well put, Linny.

    I don't read many blogs regarding adoption and hadn't realized that this was a thing, but it's ironic to me because it seems as though what people accept as the "right" thing cycles – like a fad. It wasn't that long ago that I was hearing negative things about adopting older kids, or children with a different heritage… or negative things about adoption in general.
    We all have different personalities, strengths and weaknesses, likes, preferences, etc. for a reason. I don't think that the right kind of child is something that can be generalized when it comes to being a family..
    There are children out there who need love.
    There are families out there who have love to give.
    Period.

    We have an idea in mind for our family (who doesn't)… but mostly, we just pray that God will send us the children that He intends for our family and that our eyes will be open to recognize them as ours.

  19. Linny,
    Some people just get really fired up for the things that God has spoken to THEM about and they want to ignite that fire within other's. I remember a really passionate post you wrote a while ago about God calling singles to adopt. It was one of those "check in my Spirit" moments. I think the comments from that post and who they were from (very young, single women) is what concerned me the most. But you were passionate about your opinion. You took a stand for something that wasn't necessarily 100% scriptural, but nontheless, your personal conviction. The call to adopt SN children can evoke that same passion in the hearts of BTDT parents and they just hate seeing SN kids get left behind or looked over or completely ignored for a more "appealing" choice when they themselves KNOW firsthand the amazing blessings that SN children bring to their lives. I know you get that. I'm just saying… Maybe it's not wrong to be passionate for a cause as long as we're not saying that it's "unhomie" for someone else to choose a different path:)
    Blessings,
    Rebecca

  20. What a beautiful post. So appreciated. When we chose to adopt, we were so encouraged to choose a different route but we new God wanted us to go to China and adopt a little girl. I am so blessed I listened to Him and followed His plan. If we could be less judgemental and more supportive of each other, we would truly not have to deal with what others think. Thank you for the wonderful post. The crayon pictures truly says it all.
    Blessings,
    Wendy

  21. I am so blessed to read this!!! I really am and you have put into words what my heart has been feeling recently! Thank you Linny! We adopted a SN little girl from China three years ago and now wait to adopt from Uganda. I have especially seen the 'judgement' on some blogs and it breaks my heart too. This is definitely a word from the Lord!!! Thank you for being obedient to share!

  22. Thank you Linny for sharing what the Lord ask you to share! It was a rough day and I have been struggling with the lack of control I have in the adoption/foster care world. I want what is best for the precious treasures in our care and it was a good reminder that the Lord has a unique plan for them and our family. I will continue to be a strong advocate for them but rest in the Lord knowing He has a perfect plan unfolding for them!!!!

  23. I want to thank you for writing this. What an encouragement it is to read these words on the eve of our next adoption fundraiser. I've been bracing myself for all the questions! Actually, I really love the questions of curious people…it's just that some are easier to answer than others. For example, it's sometimes to tough to answer, "WHY would you adopt from Africa when there are kids HERE??!" The fact is, there are kids here, in Africa, and everywhere. They all need and deserve home and family. None are any more deserving of these things than any other. I LOVE how God makes families–all unique and beautiful and wonderfully different. We all look different, act different, have a different "feel" about us…and that is GOOD. I pray for God's grace as I answer all "the" questions. 🙂

  24. Great WORD! There are more than a million orphans-JUST GO GET THEM! Any one will do! (I hear God cry out-RUN TO THE BATTLE!) God has a plan for each and every orphan as well as each and every family adopting. We need more people to step forward in faith. If we can't love and encourage the 2% of Americans who actually adopt, who will?
    Now, to be honest, I've felt "passed by" by the families who have adopted more than we have and my own guilt of why we are not in a place to adopt again robs me of my joy and determination of what I can do to help orphans at times. Satan will use anything to stop the purposes and plans of God. Don't let him!

  25. This is so right on!!! I confess that there was a day that I said, "I will NEVER go overseas…the need is so great right here." After we adopted from foster care, the Lord showed us our son, who happened to be in Ethiopia, & his age was older than our youngest. Adoption hasn't been just about adoption…for us, it's been learning to listen to Him, learning His heart, & trusting as we take steps of obedience, even when they may not make sense (Like when we no sooner got back from Ethiopia & He spoke to our heart infant. Here. What!? Yep.) And then when He said special needs. China. When we said we were just fine. 😉 Here, there…He loves His children everywhere.

  26. Thank you, thank you, thank you for posting this!!!!!!!!!! I've been so bothered by the same thing, but I can't say much and have anyone listen because I only adopted once, a ten month old!

  27. AMEN! And God knew just what I needed to hear tonight with a home full of adopted blessings with a teen that is giving me lots of blessed grey hair! Thanks for sharing God's word, Linny. I could just hug you!

  28. beautiful, beautiful picture. such truth. thank you, linny!

    have i told you lately that i love you?

    [and your recent message, that i haven't responded to yet, is SO appreciated. thank you.]

  29. LIKE.
    🙂

    Seriously good post. I bought the LWB Sevenly fundraiser shirt. It says "Love the Orphan". It's perfect because EVERYONE can do that! There are so many different ways to LOVE. I really feel led to speak about this in my church, but the door has not opened…yet.

    Take care,
    <3
    Rebecca

  30. I LOVE LOVE LOVE this post! Every single child in the world who has no parents just has one need: parents! Of course adoption looks different for every family!

  31. Linny, thank you for this. I admit that this is an issue I have struggled with for sometime. Because I am called to foster care adoption I have the sinful tendency to think that it is what everyone else should do to… I was just reading the other day about how the parts of the body shouldn't wish that they are other parts like if the ear were mad that it were not an eye, sometimes I feel like I am the foot mad at everyone else for not being a foot. Isn't that silly? Thanks for calling me out. I truly hope that one day our paths cross, so that I may hug you and thank you for all the beautiful things you have said and for the "friendship" we have had. This past year of reading your blog has been so uplifting and helpful on many occasions. God is using you in so many ways, I pray His continued blessings on you and your family.

  32. I had no idea those camps had formed in the blog world. I noticed today that many blogs had suddenly gone private…is this a coincidence? Guess I have been blissfully oblivious!
    You know, on a slightly different trail…I read sonething someone wrote where they wondered what their response would have been if they'd really understood the challenges they'd face upfront. I feel that is one of the greatest gifts of having parented many different children over a period of years…I look for those challenges. I want that pruning. I am so grateful for what He gives me. AND I am so grateful for WHO he gives me. You know, I have never been at an adoption event and thought that I shoulda just gotten that kid ovee there. If a person truly believes God places these children in families, WHAT is there to be arrogant about? –Elaine

  33. Well said and thank you for saying it. Other than the obvious of obeying God, kids (all kids) need homes. Not just the young, healthy, special-needs or whatever category they fall into. They just need homes with family to love them for who they are and are going to become. We finally readopted my son at 6 years of age instead of when we brought him home at two. I felt bad about putting it off for so long but God knew we needed to wait. It has helped him see so much how much we love and WANTED him. When leaving the court house he said with the biggest smile on his face, "I'm glad you adopted me because I love being in this family." He finally gets it! Before whenever the word adoption came up, he got nervous but not any more. True blessing from God. Just wanted to share.

  34. Thanks for this post. It clarifies some things that have been bouncing around in my head for awhile, but didn't feel "qualified" to voice an opinion on….

  35. I love the homier than thou – I had a less charitable expression! I also loved your analogy. The debates make me think a lot of people never outgrew their teens years as the mean girls in school who sought to tear others down so that they could feel better about themselves 🙁 And now these girls have grown up but have never learnt to play nice and are in the adoption wars. It is almost as though God is not enough for us – we still have to desperately seek validation from friends, family and perfect strangers and we only find that validation if everyone will follow our exact path and if not, then by golly will we be sanctimonious and self-righteous! Sad, sad, sad, when we could harness all the special gifts the Lord has given women (and all that energy we wrongly expend fighting and bickering) to bring much good as we obey His command to take care of the fatherless and widows. There is enough room for everyone to play a part – we need not feel we are in a competition and should always strive to extend true grace (even if we think our "way" is the way).

    Blessings.

  36. I LOVE this post! SO true. I have no idea what "bloggyland crazy" you are talking about, but what you have said is very true. God's plan for each family is uniquely made just for them. Each and every orphan that is adopted into a loving family is a part of His amazing story of redemption!

  37. straight into my heart, thank the Lord en thank you. now I know that the way the Lord shows me is the right, no matter what everyone around me is saying.
    Jane

  38. Loved this post – and those words coming from you as a picture given to you by the Lord are powerful. We are all in this together and it just wouldn't work any other way. I am always challenged by your obedience as I seek to know what the Lord wants for me in every area of my life. I love your sweet family and love seeing the Lord move in so many others. Blessings, Linny. Love you.

  39. Thank you for this! I'm not sure if the child we bring home will be special needs or not. We are just trusting that the Lord will lead us to the child we are meant to bring into our family.

  40. This is an excellent post.

    We always assumed we would adopt internationally. After much research, we discovered it was not a good option for us. This was based on:
    – my husband's work schedule and travel requirements
    -parent eligibility requirements
    -fears about countries closing to adoption while we were in the middle of the process

    We decided instead to do domestic infant adoption – something we had never considered before. We also liked the idea of being able to be in contact with the birth mother.

    God leads each family to the adoption option that is best for them. We can't presume to know what is best for another family.

    Likewise, some people promote that it is a holy thing to do to have 6+ biological kids and that everyone should do that. Other people say that it is selfish to have lots of kids and that you should have no kids or just one or two. I always feel uncomfortable around people with strong opinions because I wonder what they would say about me.

    We can't know the mind of God and how He works. Let's not make adoption into a status symbol.

    "Who has understood the mind of the Lord or instructed him as his counselor?"
    Isaiah 40:13

  41. Amen sister and thank you for opening this up. Bottom line as you said is arrogance and pride. If you seek the Holy Spirits direction then that is your plan and we can't live on another persons revelation. When I fasted and prayed on building my family I was open and was leaning towards international. I started opening doors and God led me on a different and beautiful path. He needs all of us listening and being obedient and there is no right or wrong way just being obedient to His voice. I am so thankful I listened and I pray to continue to hear His voice. I love your family and glad and thankful for this blog and the knee team.

  42. Amen! What a relief on so many levels! We can't afford to be distracted by the "Joneses". Love them, yes. But keep up with them, no! Thank you.

  43. This is so well said, and so relevant. I've noticed this "trend" in attitude toward adoption, and honestly have struggled with it myself, in my thinking both of adoption in our own family (we've already adopted once; 2 and 4 y/o siblings internationally) and toward other families we see adopting. I'm glad for the encouragement as well as the challenge you've given me. Thank you.

  44. Your post meant so much to me. My husband and I started our journey sure we would be fostering/adopting large sibling groups through the US foster care system. God obviously had other plans for us. He dropped a beautiful little haitian boy in our lives with life threatening cardiac defects as a host child. Now we are heading towards not only adopting him but his 7 year old sister and 8 month old sister. We are still going to be foster/adopting from us foster care hopefully older sibling groups. But god open our eyes to international special needs adoptions and our hearts can't just forget what we have seen. We figure we are young (26,27) and have our whole lives ahead of us to follow where God leads us. So will we will probably "mix it up" and adopt the children god has made for our family no matter which "adoption category" they fit into. We also have to accept we can't personally save every child so we have recently started a non-profit to aid as many children as possible that we can't take into our home. Thank you for being an inspiration to a couple who is just starting out on this crazy journey and reminding us it is not what others think it's about what is right for us and in God's eyes.

  45. What an absolutely powerful post. It is a great reminder that what God wants from all of us – regardless of what assignment He gives us – is our obedience. The picture of the crayons was a perfect illustration! Thanks for sharing!

  46. Yes! Thank you for this!
    My husband and I were having a conversation recently… the main focus was schooling… I pointed out that each family must make their own decisions under God's guidance.
    I told him of a recent blog post brought to my attention. In it the writer declares she does not care if they nurse or bottlefeed, doesn't care if they cloth diaper or use disposables, doesn't care if they use public school or homeschool… what she DID care about was the fact that so many children are completely without a mother! She urged everyone to help the orphans as God directed them.
    I love how God speaks to so many at the same time 🙂 Don't you?

  47. I love this post!!! When we first set out on our adoption journey,one of the first things we learned was to let God plan our family. It didn't matter who or where, just that he had the perfect one for us. God adopted us into His family and didn't put any limatations on us! To be honest we couldn't even make up my minds on which route we would take. One day it was foster, then international. We discussed sibling groups,and older children. We kept praying for God's will for our family and that's all. We finally thought we figured it out- we would do international and wanted to look into special needs in China. haha God had other plans and we walked away with a newborn 3 days old from a few towns away. We still don't know what the outcome will be or if she'll have special needs( she has some health concerns now). All we know is that God knew she would be the first baby we would take care of and He picked her, not us. And I'm thankful He did the same for me and wasn't soo picky. 🙂

  48. Thank you , thank you , thank you. I needed to hear this- I think I read the same post as you did- and I was sooo distressed- we have adopted 3 times- and all infants from different countries. They fit in our family perfectly. We loved our agency- and we felt like they really advocated for the kids- and love children and want things to be ethical and legal. This person was talking like adoption was human trafficking (unless the kids were special needs or older kids, etc.)- and she even said I was naive to think that our adoptions weren't corrupt. I know it is usually hurt that drives these statements. I know you posted for me- thanks for being obedient. Love, Heather

  49. This was beautifully written in a time I needed to hear it. We are waiting for a foster/adopt placement and have had both mixed emotions and mixed responses. My next picture to add to our journey book will be crayons!

  50. Very well said–thank you for obeying that prompting! I love that the Lord chose you, a uniquely qualified messenger, to speak those words.

  51. I agree with your post. I do think we are probably reading the same blogs and I guess I took them pretty differently. As I understood them, people are advocating for their passions. Some have passions to adopt older and/or special needs children and I don't think they believe that makes them holier than thou…. I just think they are sharing that there is a huge need in that area — a fact that I don't think can be disputed! Part of that is a word of caution about corruption which is everywhere — precisely because we are fallen. We all ought to be watching out for and concerned about it. All of that to say, I don't take your post (or any of them) any differently than others I read: a person's thought on an issue they are passionate about. Surely we know plenty of people who disagree with your "should single women adopt" message…. but not us! 😉

  52. Linny, you cannot know how much I needed your encouraging words today. We are in the midst of this all and I have really been struggling with feeling like the way that God has so obviously called, led, and opened doors for us was "lesser" because of those types of posts that are floating around. It has deeply hurt my heart. So thank you for your reminder. God is the ones who orchestrates it all….why would we even question it?

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