I’m not an expert on disruption.
Not at all.
And in a perfect world, there would be no disruption.
But we can say, from our very limited experience, that four years ago today a very terrified 9 year old joined our family as our 12th and August 24th became one of the sweetest days of all of our lives!
Although another family wasn’t a good fit for our handsome son, he was a absolutely perfect fit for us.
This afternoon Nehemiah and I were talking as we worked side by side doing chores. We had been talking about when he first came home and how very scared he was.
In fact he had never told me about his first night home – until today! He was sharing with me that he didn’t understand English very well, but as he lay in bed he could hear Dw and I talking that first night. He thought we were saying that we were going to send him to live with big brother Tyler. He said he laid in bed and cried and cried. Oh how my heart hurt hearing that!! And of course, he was too scared to ask!!
I took a guess at what I was probably saying that first night home to Dw which Nehemiah had overheard. That day I had talked to our sweet daughter-in-love Sarah on the phone. Sarah had been telling me how she was telling one of her sisters about Nehemiah being disrupted from his adoptive family and coming to live with us.
Sarah’s sister had felt horrible at the situation and said, “I don’t even like kids, but I would take him.”
And in his limited understanding of English he had totally thought I meant that he would be leaving. I felt horrible today hearing about it now. If only I had been able to assure him that night that that was the farthest thing from the truth!!
Nehemiah’s actually a teenager now. He turned 13 when we were at the old Home Place.
In four years Nee has learned that he can trust us. That we desperately love him. That we are so stinkin’ grateful he’s ours – forever!! That we truly need him!! That we couldn’t imagine our lives without him. That, in fact, he is an integral part of our family!!
Actually we are certain, God brought him to the other family so that he would make his way to ours. Truth be known, four years ago we were too old to adopt from Ch*na (they have since changed their regulations!!)
And anytime I think of how Nehemiah joined our family I am forever grateful to our great God that we were the ones who were able to bring him home.
Someone else’s loss was our most tremendous gain.