Pretty sure it’s no surprise to anyone who knows me that I’m passionate about adoption. My lifelong dream has been fulfilled with our sweet pile of fourteen treasures.
Is our home perfect? Goodness gracious, not at all. Of course we have struggles – just like you – because we’re human.
Yet the other day I had a brief conversation with one of ours that bears repeating. Why? Because every child deserves a family and maybe someone out there is wondering about foster care, adoption or special needs adoption.
No doubt many are scared away from adoption because most have heard a “horror story” regarding adoption. Personally, each time I hear one I have to bite down hard on my tongue. Pretty sure I could wear a tongue ring (no piercing necessary) with how hard I’ve bit down over the years, cause I’m actually so-over-all-the-horror-stories.
Let’s be honest, there is opportunity for every child (and adult) to make lousy choices, end up in trouble or go sideways. Birthed or adopted – each person has their own free will.
Yet some, while observing an adopted child who has gone sideways will whisper, “Well that’s the one they adopted!” And while I’m not a betting woman, I would definitely put a large sum of money on it that no one has ever whispered when a birth child goes sideways, “Ohhhh, that’s the one they birthed!” Somehow birth kids get a free pass and treasures who came home through adoption are singled out and held to a standard of perfection. Really, I just don’t get it.
And on that note…here’s a little known fact: There are Christians serving in orphanages around the world praying for and with the kids they care for. They are praying and contending for a family for each child.
Our son John is one. People who loved Christ came to visit the orphanage he was in. They told our Johnny-boy about the life-changing message of Jesus and he prayed and accepted Christ. John has told me that after asking Jesus into his heart he began to pray daily and specifically for a family. Can you imagine, friends? Kids praying for families to come for them? [Tears welling.] How can we turn our backs and pretend there aren’t kids in foster care, orphans waiting, all longing and some praying for a family of their own?
John had been overlooked for years while watching his friends leave with their forever families. In fact because of John’s quadriplegia an unkind nanny had told him repeatedly, “No one will ever want you because you are too much work.”
Yet in spite of the regular taunting words from Miss Nasty-Nanny our God was hearing John’s prayers. John told me that even as the years passed he was certain a family would come. And yes, indeed, our faithful God was not only hearing Johnny’s prayers but He was miraculously moving on the other side of the world on his behalf.
Anyway, the other day John asked me, “Mom. Do you think our family should have a day of prayer and fasting for Ruby’s left side to be healed?” My eyes welled with tears when he asked.
The kid that most families would overlook because, you know, he was almost 14 years old and a quadriplegic – yeah, that kid suggested a day of prayer and fasting. What amazed me even more was that no one we know had suggested it, just him. What a precious son. Not perfect, but it wouldn’t work if he was, because we aren’t perfect either.
So do me a little favor, next time you happen upon someone sharing yet another horror story about adoption, please share this simple story about our son John:
A quadriplegic adopted at nearly 14-years-old from a foreign country who loves his baby sister (who is adopted from a different continent) so much that he suggests a time of prayer and fasting to petition God to miraculously heal her.
And friends, truth be known, for each “horror story” out there I have a billion beautiful forever-family stories of love, joy and blessed hope. Just ask me.