Yesterday our Nehemiah turned 13!! Can you believe it?? We can’t!!
As I sat down to begin to write this post yesterday, I was overwhelmed with a flood of emotions.
To think that he was over 9 years old before he came home to us is almost unbearable to Dw and I. Nee has told us about his abandonment, which he remembers well. We can hardly bear the literal pain we feel as he talks of it. He has told us many stories of life in the orphanage, which are also very hard to bear. And yes, his memory is impeccable!!
On top of all that pain, the fear and the extensive trauma, he then had all his hopes and dreams crash with the devastating loss of his first adoptive family. The inevitable feelings of deep rejection are almost too much. He speaks very openly. We are so grateful he has found his comfort in the Lord and the God who created him so beautifully.
I know many people cannot imagine bringing home a 9 year old. But friends, let me assure you he is one of the greatest gifts we’ve ever had the privilege of parenting.
When Nehemiah was first home, how precious are they?? And Emmy was still home then.
Although Nehemiah’s first adoptive family was not prepared to parent him, let me assure you, they lost an amazing blessing when they decided to relinquish him. But their great loss was our over-the-top, tremendous gain! This son of ours – there just aren’t enough words to describe how precious he is.
Few could imagine adoption through a disruption. I mean, we tend to think, “Wow, that kid must have been a serious problem!!” (Which actually is extremely rare!)
Others could not envision adopting a 9 year old because of his age, but friends, not a day goes by that I don’t thank the Lord for allowing us the joy of calling him ours forever.
It pains my heart if I stop to think of all he went through to finally be home, forever. It wasn’t fair and he definitely didn’t deserve any of it. This kid is an amazing gift to all who know him!!
Nehemiah oozes with a tender heart, a gentle spirit and an obvious love for others. He’s also helpful – always jumping up whenever anyone needs anything. Hugging him tight the other day I thanked him for always being so helpful. He smiled and kinda’ giggling responded, “I love to help!” True enough. He loves to help.
The stuffed animal and Barney were jokes. We found them up in the play things in the old Home Place here and turned them into part of a gag gift. We had many laughs about it all.
Vernon loves to laugh (as if you couldn’t tell!)….and Daddy loves to tease him….
I’ve told Nehemiah that if the Lord’s plan is for him is to live in the United States someday, then how about we have him and his wife buy the house next door or behind us? Then we’ll chop a hole through the concrete block fence so we can go back and forth. He laughs and always says, “Okay!” (And yes, I have the same conversation with the others as well!)
So as much I write to celebrate God’s gracious gift to us, I tell a speck of his story to encourage others who may be wondering if older adoption is for them? Or maybe even an adoption through disruption?
We now have adopted three “older” – Jubilee was 8, Nehemiah was 9 and Vernon was just about to turn 14. Older child adoption is a precious gift to any family who opens their heart.
And every single day of the 365 days each year there are thousands just like our Nehemiah or our Jubilee or our Vernon praying, hoping, needing, dreaming and longing for a family.
((Birdie was in bed when we opened presents. She was just too tired to party anymore!))
Happy 13th Birthday Nehemiah – we are so very thankful God made you and that you are ours!!!
Nehemiah would be thrilled if you wished him a Happy Birthday!! So feel free to wish him one!!